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In their words

What people notice after practising Quiet Confidence — at work, at school, and at home.

  • 98% found it practical and engaging
  • 100% would recommend it to colleagues
  • Same day people report using it straight away
Quiet Confidence gave me practical tools to respond more effectively in high-pressure situations. The program builds real awareness and choice — not just understanding, but lived experience. It's changed the way I engage with colleagues, clients, and challenges day to day.
Yash Dayal Chief Strategy Officer, SLS Security

What stays with people

  • “I can protect myself without hurting others.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “Control my reaction — calmness is power.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “Own my space, stay grounded, and not take abuse personally.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “Gentle deflection, not force, is strength.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “I didn't realize how much tension I held until I learned to let go.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “Never retaliate — go with the flow.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “I walked away feeling more confident.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

  • “Used deflection of a verbal attack the same day.”

    Quiet Confidence participant

It carries beyond the session

People consistently describe shifts that go further than safety at work.

  • Responding with calm rather than confrontation
  • Not taking abuse personally
  • Noticing body language and the space around them
  • Using the ideas in words as well as movement
  • More confidence and composure under stress
  • Calmer at home, including with their children
  • More at ease in personal and social situations
  • Responding rather than reacting, under all kinds of pressure
This was one of the best-received courses we've ever run. Staff engagement was extremely high, and the feedback was overwhelmingly positive. I would gladly attend a full session myself.
John Taylor CEO, Community Connections

Where Quiet Confidence has been practised

  • Community Connections

    Mental health and disability services. A psychologist attended four sessions and endorses the approach.

  • SLS Security

    Security professionals in high-pressure settings, who use the ideas in their daily work.

  • King's College

    Leadership development for prefects, who valued the calmness, stability and hands-on practice.

  • Kelston Boys High School

    An anti-bullying programme, including a large-stage demonstration for students.

  • Elderhood

    Wellbeing sessions for older adults: finding your footing, calm in uncertain moments, and moving through your day.

  • Many more across Aotearoa

    Including residential care providers supporting people with disabilities and mental illness.

On learning with Tony

  • “Easy to approach, great communicator, had everyone transfixed.”

    Programme participant

  • “Monumentally knowledgeable — 40 years' experience shows.”

    Programme participant

  • “Fantastic manner, fun, calm, engaging.”

    Programme participant

Where do you feel steady today?

Whether you are looking after a team, a classroom, a family or yourself, we are always happy to talk about what Quiet Confidence could look like for you.

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